We all feel fear. Fears are an inextricable part of our lives because we live largely from our minds rather than from our hearts. The essential role of our mind is to keep us safe, protected, and in a state of familiarity. In doing so, our fears can often keep us limited and stuck in circumstances that devour our inner being and hold us back from the beauty of potential and possibility. Our heart and soul beat for chance and all things new, whereas our mind or ego serves the fundamental nature of our very human survival instinct- this is a key point to absorb for better understanding.
We are born fearless; as children we got back up each time we fell with greater courage and resolve- we let nothing stand in our way because we were driven by our heart and emotion. As we grow into adulthood our mental processes intensify; anxiety and worry cloud our mind and leave us feeling weak and out of control- but it doesn’t need to be this way. Here are 3 truths that lie beyond our fears to help instil a heightened understanding for you.
Beneath all those layers of fear are the hidden caves of our innate fragility and vulnerability- something we protectively try to disguise. We conceal our fragility so we can protect ourselves from pain and the chaotic inconvenience of change. But life is a full experience that calls to us to embrace it; the good, the bad, and all the messy bits in between. Good and bad are just perceptions that we can mindfully tweak. Everything has a purpose and we evolve through all our difficulty when we empower ourselves to do so. Life requires us to show up and shine and to take the risk in order to reach for the potential reward. How can we do so if we don’t endeavour to strip back our fears and embrace a level of vulnerability? Through the vessel of vulnerability and the might of our inner strength we find the courage that moves us forward toward chance and possibility; a place where we can open up to trusting ourselves and finding freedom through our fears.
“The heart surrenders everything to the moment. The mind judges and holds back.” ~ Ram Dass
Self created Limits
We create our own limits and boundaries. In cognizance of this, if we are able to construct walls of limits and fears then we can certainly knock them down. We deceptively guard and shut down our hearts so that we live with some certainty- and yet it is the uncertainty and mystery of life that we should be reaching toward because that is where opportunity and possibility reign free. When we bravely work through our fears and internal struggles rather than keep them concealed or attempt to deny them we begin to dull the echo of the fearful giant that consumes our thoughts. Understanding our inner settings and soul essence helps us to use fear as a source of fuel. We need to reflect upon what sits beyond the surface level of what makes us afraid.
“We are all museums of fear”- Charles Bukowski
The mask we wear
Life is a masquerade. What are we trying to hide from one another? Fears and anxiety mask our authenticity, integrity and deeper values. When we face our worries and fears then we begin to scrape away at this mask we wear to the world and we can fearlessly embrace ourselves. We are all vulnerable and we often find the greatest beauty in life is inspired by that same fragility that opens our hearts to love, gratitude, compassion, and committing to a meaningful existence. All experiences are worthy- whether they bring us pain, failure, or sorrow. We blaze our embers of light and fiery will through the darkest times that transform us in a very deep and personal way. When we stop hiding we can start seeking the full experience of life.
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”- Mark Twain
We must remember that we are the managers of our thoughts and emotions- they are simply energies that will come and go; all energy is mutable. We can choose how we feed and channel that energy and our fears; and when we do so we inspire self mastery and an autonomous approach to life.